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Four Daughters Explore When Dad Has Dementia in this AlzAuthors Virtual Q&A
June 7 @ 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm
Caring for a father with a dementia diagnosis brings to caregiving its own special set of circumstances and considerations. In this AlzAuthors Live! Virtual Q&A we explore these changes and challenges with four of our authors. Their stories will inspire and empower you on your own dementia journey with your dad.
The event is on Tuesday, June 7th at 2 pm EST via Zoom. You will receive the link to the event a day or so before. The program will be recorded and added to our YouTube channel. The event is free but donations are welcome. Click here to donate.
Andrea recently lost her beloved father, a renowned surgeon, to Alzheimer’s. She wrote about her family’s caregiving journey and is the first of our authors to write about caregiving during COVID. “My hope in writing my memoir was to reach other children of Alzheimer’s or other terminal illnesses and show how a diagnosis and decline can bring many feelings, including denial, anger, sadness, frustration, and love, but most of all can lead to hope and acceptance. The road to acceptance was paved with a process of transformation for myself and my family.
Irene survived being an Alzheimer’s family caregiver twice: to her father and her sister-in law. Her goal in writing Requiem was to encourage and educate others who might be called upon to take on the role of family caregiver. “My struggles were the struggles of Every Caregiver – the universal character that exists
nationwide and, in every country, worldwide. Like many carers, I had the unfortunate incident of losing my identity where my parent was concerned, of endlessly repeating myself and losing my temper when such repetitions became too much for my limited abilities as a learn-as-you-go, on-the-spot person who managed as I could, and failed when I couldn’t. I too was thrust into the role of trying to maintain my loved one’s dignity while endeavoring not to lose my Irene-ness in the process. That outcome is a real threat to every caregiver’s life: losing who you are, thereby failing to keep the personhood on which you need to rely when the failures outnumber the successes
Patti is the daughter of President Ronald Reagan, who opened the world’s eyes to to the disease when he disclosed his own diagnosis in his Letter to America in 1994. “I made some decisions early on that would end up grounding me for what turned out to be a ten-year journey. I told myself that my father’s soul couldn’t have Alzheimer’s. I believed that if I kept holding to that, I could hopefully find apertures through the disease and get glimpses of a soul that can’t be sick. At the end of my father’s life, he opened his eyes seconds before he died, and he was present, aware. His soul showed up and I felt my faith had been validated. I also decided to keep asking, What can I learn here? I didn’t want to make judgements that would cloud my vision, I wanted to stay open.”
Tanya grew up in the mountains of New Mexico in a roadside attraction built by her father. Throughout his Alzheimer’s journey she
documented their experience with photographs and journaling. “I did not mean to write a book. After my father died, I sat down with my journals to try to understand what had happened to me and to my family in a five-year period that began just before I turned thirty. I often say that caregiving is all about being just hands and feet. You’re running and doing. You’re putting out fires (in my case both real and metaphorical), without any time for introspection or emotion. As I burrowed into my stacks of yellow legal pads, it was the head and the heart that I was after.”
Potential topics for discussion
• Seeing your father (and yourself) in a new light after a dementia diagnosis
• Dealing with a forever altered relationship
• Becoming a caregiver
• Maintaining familial roles
• Handling the many losses of dementia
• Managing behavior changes
• Collaborating with siblings
• Living with guilt
• Coping with grief
• Handing care over to outside carers, i.e. home care, assisted living, memory care
Registrants are also allowed to ask questions. You may present your questions in the registration form.
How to Help
We want to fill the Zoom Room as we believe these inspirational stories have much to offer caregivers caught balancing dementia care and their relationships with their fathers. Any assistance you can bring via your own network and platform is greatly appreciated. Please share our tweets and posts as you see them on social media, and pass this blog post on to your own friends, family, and followers.
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